It ain't easy out there.
Tinder, Bumble, Grindr, messages, notifactions, creepy slurs, draining coversation, repetition, dating people you barely know and realising after 10 minutes that you're not remotely attracted to them after sacraficing your Friday night to meet them... then there's the ghosting, the one-night stands, the feeling of being used, the confidence knocks, the desire to retract it all. Alongside all of that headache and hurt, some people just don't want to be in a relationship, for various personal reasons. Some people love dating and don't fancy being with one person exclusively at the moment, maybe never. Point being, each. to. their. own... Simple. Right?
Wrong. People in 2018 constantly ask the question... "But, WHY are you single?"
This question is usually intended as a compliment... "why would someone like YOU not have been grabbed off the market?"
Well, it's not a compliment, at all. It causes some single people to question themselves and doubt their own single life. It's also a pretty impossible and uncomfortable question to answer to someone you've just met.
This Twitter user snapped online in recent days after being asked the dreaded question...
I truly hate the question “why are you single?” because it twists a knife. I can’t explain why I haven’t been able to make a successful romantic connection in years and though that question is framed as a compliment it really isn’t one
— Joe (@jeauxsephjohn) August 19, 2018
This prompted several people to share other questions that they find offensive:
I feel the same way when people ask why I don't have kids yet. Both are highly personal questions to be handled tactfully because you never know what a person has been or is currently going through.
— Seetal Savla (@SavlaFaire) August 20, 2018
I have a friend who desperately wants children. She and her husband have been trying with no luck for years. This question can send her into a funk for days.
— Loretta Ross (@lorettasueross) August 21, 2018
i absolutely hate this question. or on dating apps:
“what’s a girl like you doing on here?”
what? does this mean every other woman on dating apps sucks? how do they suck? and what do you think i’m doing here? i suck at meeting ppl irl but i still crave human connection OKAY
— dream ghoul (@TheDreamGhoul) August 20, 2018
Dear Joe,
Perhaps your life is BETTER single. Perhaps you'd be miserable in a domestic arrangement. Perhaps the compromises required to be made wouldn't suit you. Perhaps notion that everybody get paired off, reproduce, work in the same job for 40+ years isn't for you?
— Siobhan Lydon (@SiobhanLydon) August 20, 2018
Yes, I get that from people sometimes too. It insinuates that I've failed in some way. My last relationship ended up as a total disaster and I don't need people reminding me that I'm single. I need to be content as a single man and there is nothing wrong with being single.
— Liam Doran ?️? (@SteveDoran11) August 20, 2018
Right... can we all make a conscious effort to stop now then? Great.
